In November 2019 the world of celebrity gossip was suddenly shaken to its core. Keanu Reeves, the famously private but extremely beloved A-list actor, appeared to be dating again after a long period of being single. His new belle was an artist named Alexandra Grant, and the Reeves-Grant relationship is proving to be a fascinating one.
20. The couple first met back in 2009
Keanu Reeves was quite busy in the year 2009. He did the movie The Private Lives of Pippa Lee alongside Robin Wright and Winona Ryder, and played a comedic Swede in the web-based television series Sparhusen. But he also found the time to attend a dinner party at one point, and that was where he met Grant.
It seems the pair were taken with each other right away. Actress Jennifer Tilly had learned about their relationship long before the rest of the rest of the world did, and in 2020 she told Page Six magazine that her reaction at the time had been “Wait. What? What? What?” She added, “[Grant] was so cool I thought she was a lesbian.”
19. Grant’s white hair is all natural
Grant is still in her 40s, but her hair is already a bright shade of white, the perfect contrast to Reeves’ black. She didn’t dye it – it turned that way naturally before she even turned 40 years old. And she doesn’t mind at all: in fact, she’s proud of it. In March 2020 she told Vogue magazine, “We should all have more options as to what beauty is.”
Grant also has worries about the safety of hair dye, it seems. She once shared an article on her Instagram feed about an apparent increase in breast cancer among women who used hair dye. Alongside it she wrote, “ [I] dyed my hair every color along the way until I couldn’t tolerate the toxicity of the dyes any more.”
18. The pair worked on a book together
Before they were revealed as being boyfriend and girlfriend, Reeves and Grant teamed up to create a book called Ode to Happiness. The Canadian actor wrote the poem which made up the tome, one line per page, and the artist did the illustrations for it. It was the first book the Hollywood A-lister had ever released.
Grant told the BBC website about the book in 2011. She said, “I’ve seen people cracking up over it. Then I showed it to someone at a bookstore in L.A. and she started weeping, so you never know what the reaction will be. It depends what people bring to the book, but there’s a real power to it.”
17. There’s nine years between the couple
When news of the relationship first broke people noted with happiness that Grant and Reeves looked as though they were roughly the same age, maybe with the artist being a bit older. She’s the one with white hair, after all. But in fact the actor is older than his partner by nine years – he was born in 1964 and she in 1973.
This led to no small amount of comment about Hollywood double standards and how women are quickly seen as “past their prime.” One Twitter user noted that while the Reeves-Grant relationship was a “refreshing” one, “Hollywood’s conditioned us to see a 55-year-old man and a 46-year-old woman as the same age.”
16. Reeves has turned Grant onto motorcycles
The Speed star happens to be a big fan of motorcycles, both riding them and creating them. He loves them so much that he’s accumulated a large collection over the years, and he even owns a bike-making company which he co-founded. So any woman who wants to go out with him probably needs a healthy interest in bikes.
Luckily, Grant seems to have that in spades. She’s reportedly taking riding lessons to learn how to handle a motorcycle correctly. And in May 2020 an anonymous source told Life & Style magazine that among the favorite pastimes of the couple was “going for a ride on [Reeves’] motorbike.”
15. You can look up to them
One might look up to Reeves and Grant as a good example of a healthy Hollywood relationship. But you can literally look up to them, as well. The star of The Matrix is 6’1”, taller than perhaps you might think. His partner’s exact height isn’t known, but in some pictures – maybe thanks to high heels – she actually looks taller than her boyfriend.
Of course, this isn’t an odd thing, but there are some actors who reportedly get awkward about being shorter than a romantic partner. Rumor has it, for instance, that Nicole Kidman didn’t wear high heels around her then-husband Tom Cruise to hide their respective heights. But Reeves doesn’t seem to care at all who’s taller.
14. People thought Grant was Reeves’ mother
Grant faced plenty of ageism when news got out that she and Reeves were dating; sometimes it was unintentional but still very awkward. For example, when the actor took his mother Patricia Taylor with him to the Oscars in 2020, some photo captions misidentified his parent as his partner.
There were other more spiteful things aimed at Grant as well. When photographs of them began appearing on the internet, trolls left cruel remarks. One person wrote, “Men age like wine, women age like milk.” Reeves himself, with his reputation for kindness, would most likely be appalled by that behavior.
13. Grant has directed a film
Grant has many strings to her bow. Not only is she an accomplished artist, she’s a film director as well. Back in 2015 – she would have known Reeves by this point – she worked with the Nebraska-based Bemis Center for Contemporary Art to create a documentary film called Taking Lena Home.
Reeves has of course worked with many directors throughout his acting career. Interestingly, a lot of them have been women, even though female film directors are underrepresented in Hollywood. Among them are Kathryn Bigelow and Nancy Meyers. Could Alexandra Grant be added to that list one day?
12. Reeves’ mother likes Grant a lot
Reeves has another very important woman in his life – his mother, Patricia Taylor. And luckily, Taylor by all accounts adores her son’s new love interest. In February 2020 an anonymous source told Life & Style magazine that the Hollywood superstar, his girlfriend and his mother frequently met up to have meals together.
The unnamed insider told the magazine, “[Taylor] first met Alexandra over a year ago and warmed to her instantly. They share a ton in common, including their passion for the arts.” They added that Reeves was “extremely close” to his mom, but really, was anyone expecting it to be any other way?
11. Reeves and Grant were thought to be just friends
Reeves and Grant didn’t tell anyone about their relationship. The actor doesn’t do social media, and the artist has never shared anything about her beau online. People who saw them in a social setting would surely have noticed that the pair liked each other very much, but it took a while for the media to realize they were more than friends.
As late in the game as October 2019 newspaper the Daily Mail was describing Reeves and Grant as “best friends.” Yet the evidence was there for anyone who wanted to see it. In June of that year, the two of them had held hands while watching a Saint Laurent fashion show in Malibu, California.
10. Grant officiates weddings
Neither Grant nor Reeves have said anything about getting married yet. But there is an interesting tidbit out there regarding the artist and weddings: she’s actually entitled to officiate them. Though she doesn’t share many details of her life, in August 2019 she posted pics to her Instagram feed of her officiating the wedding of her friends.
Grant wrote as the caption, “Congratulations to Ginna and Edwin! I’m so honored to have officiated your wedding and be a part of this beautiful next chapter of your lives. Our friendship deepens my sense of wonder, connection, and creativity. Love you both!” It gave a little insight into Grant’s feelings about marriage.
9. They co-founded a publishing house
In 2017 it was reported that Reeves was one of the co-founders of a new publishing company, X Artists’ Books. The others were designer Jessica Fleischmann and, of course, Alexandra Grant. At the official launch at NeueHouse Hollywood, the actor described the project as “people coming together with all their talents and creativity.”
The official website for X Artists’ Books reads, “Our books are works of art; portals to imagined worlds; treasured companions; the fabric of a community. We love the same things about our books as we do about our friends: generosity, open-heartedness, intelligence, mystery, style.” It definitely sounds like the couple’s kind of thing.
8. Grant will be around for a massive new Reeves movie
There were two exciting Reeves-related reveals in 2019. One, of course, was the revelation that he was in a relationship with Grant. The other was that there would finally be a fourth movie to The Matrix franchise, with the Hollywood A-lister reprising his starring role. And by 2020 filming had officially begun.
Reeves was of course spotted on and around the movie sets, but it transpired that Grant was on location with him as well. When the cast flew out to Berlin, his partner came along too. Newspaper the Daily Mail reported that the two had been seen in the German city having dinner and – naturally – visiting an art gallery.
7. Both Grant and Reeves are philanthropists
Tales of Reeves’ philanthropy are legendary. The actor has used his millions to fund cancer research and children’s hospitals, among other things. He’s even been known to field phone calls himself during charity telethons. And most remarkably of all, he’s kept all this quiet and sought no credit whatsoever.
Reeves and Grant are very well matched in that regard. Back in 2008 the artist formed the grantLOVE project, which sells artwork and jewelry in order to benefit charities. The money raised has gone to many good causes including Project Angel Food, The Union for Contemporary Art, and Heart of Los Angeles.
6. The relationship wasn’t confirmed for a long time
In November 2019 it finally came to the wider world’s attention that Reeves was no longer single. In that month the actor turned up at the LACMA Art + Film Gala with Grant as his date. The media confirmed that the pair had been together for a while; the response was quite extraordinary.
Twitter practically exploded with delight at the news, especially since Reeves had for so long been dubbed “the internet’s boyfriend.” Author Kendra Wilkinson seemed to speak for a lot of people when she said, “Looks like my crush Keanu is off the market but for some reason I fell in love with him even more. She’s beautiful and they look great together.”
5. Grant was Reeves’ first serious relationship for a while
Reeves’ romance with Grant marked a turning point – because it was common knowledge that his last serious relationship had ended in terrible grief. The actor had once been with a woman named Jennifer Syme and she was the mother of his child, Ava Syme-Reeves. But tragically, the baby was stillborn.
Syme began suffering depression after the death of the child she had carried. In the wake of this Reeves and Syme separated, but remained friends. Yet they never got a chance to rekindle their relationship, because in 2001 Syme was killed in a car crash. For years afterwards – right up until Grant – the movie star remained single.
4. Grant was mistaken for Helen Mirren
When pictures of Grant and Reeves together began to be published on the internet, some folks temporarily mistook his new partner for another elegant white-haired woman, famous actress Helen Mirren. One person tweeted out, “Helen Mirren is sexy, Keanu’s lady is sexy. But at first glance I really thought she was Helen.”
Helen Mirren herself – who’s actually a friend of Reeves’ – commented on the Twitter kerfuffle just after it happened. On the red carpet for her film The Good Liar she told journalists from the Entertainment Tonight television show, “That was very flattering on me, you know, because [Grant is] obviously lovely.”
3. Grant has been stalked by a Reeves fan
Unfortunately, dating an A-lister can sometimes come with serious difficulties, and with the amount of fans Reeves has it’s arguably unsurprising that one of them might cause trouble for a new girlfriend. In July 2020 it was reported that Grant had requested a restraining order against a fan who had been stalking her for months.
Grant alleged that the fan, whose name was given only as “Cathryn,” had been causing her considerable distress. According to the artist, the woman had been creating “hate accounts” online to upset her, and even trespassing at her house to take photographs. The court granted a temporary restraining order and “Cathryn” was forbidden from contacting Reeves’ partner.
2. A friend thinks marriage isn’t on the cards
Jennifer Tilly, who had been friends with Grant for a while, gave an interview to Page Six magazine in February 2020. She said, “I think why everybody went crazy is that they’re sort of the perfect couple. I think everybody wishes that they had something like that. It’s not a razzle-dazzle Hollywood romance.”
But would everybody get a chance to go crazy again, at news of a Reeves-Grant wedding? Tilly actually doubted that would ever take place. The actress told the magazine, “I don’t know, [marriage] doesn’t seem very hip and bohemian, does it? They’re artists. They’re just going to do what they do.”
1. Grant helped Reeves heal
Reeves lost his unborn baby and then the mother of his child all in quick succession during 1999-2001. Understandably, he doesn’t speak much about this. But every now and again he indicates that these losses are still on his mind. In 2019 he told newspaper The Irish Times, “Grief and loss, those are things that don’t ever go away.”
But according to an insider who spoke to Life & Style magazine in 2019 Grant may be helping Reeves overcome his trauma. The source said, “He was in such a dark place for so long, but Alexandra’s positive outlook and support have played a huge part in helping him turn his life around. Some say she’s not only stolen his heart but she’s also saved him.”